On The Blog - Week Three

Here's what happened on the blog last week!

On Tuesday, the last post in the series on friends with benefits went online: Why No One Benefits From Friends With Benefits.

On Thursday I talked about the insecurity when you're dating in Relationship Status - "I don't know".

And on Saturday, I shared another recipe with you.

I've got a few things already planned for  next week; a book review and some other posts.

Thanks for reading my blog this week! I hope to see you again soon :)


Chicken Salad

Recently, this has become one of my favorite dishes, especially in the summer heat. 

You need (serves 1 hungry person or two as a side dish):


Relationship Status "I don't know"

„So, are we like, together now?”

Sunday afternoon. Our third date. We're sitting on the couch in my living room. We feel like we have to do something. This is too serious to just continue dating. And then he asks me that question. I answer that I don't now. That I like him. But we don't decide anything on that day. The next week, I tell him "I'd really like to be your girlfriend". And that's how my boyfriend and I become a couple. It is rather quick, but it is the right decision. 

"We'll just see how it turns out."

Today, many dating relationships look like this:


Why No One Benefits From Friends With Benefits

Friendship with benefits has become increasingly popular in the last few years. In 2011, Hollywood released two big movies that started the promotion of this new "relationship model". Quickly, all the ladies' magazines like Cosmo jumped on board and gave their reader tips on how to get all the fun they had seen on screen. Especially young people believed in the illusion and were eager to try this out. 

I've shared my story with you last week. Today, I'll talk about what I've learned and how, in the end, nobody benefits in any way from a friendship with benefits. 


Modest Inspiration #1

In summer, I'm a huge fan of long, flowing skirts and dresses. I gladly exchange those hotpants and supershort and tight miniskirts (I call them "belts" :D when they are so short you're not sure if it's really a skirt) for a longer, modest option.

Today I want to show you my favorite summer dress :)

On The Blog - Week Two

Here's what happened on the blog last week! 

I got my first two comments! I'm so happy <3

On Tuesday, I shared a post called Why Love And Sex Should Not Be Separated

On Thursday, it got really personal when I told you about My Experience With Friends With Benefits. That was a tough post for me to write, but I think it's a very important topic since this "relationship model" has become increasingly popular among young people :(

And on Saturday, I let you take a short glimpse into my closet!

This will be on the blog next week: 

26.07. Why No One Benefits From Friends With Benefits

28.07. Relationship Status " I Don't Know " - about insecurity, dating around and the fear of           commitment

30.07.  A new recipe :)

I've got three exams next week, so the dates might change a little. Keep your fingers crossed for me! 

I'm also starting my two-week internship at the library on Friday. When it's over, I'll also do a post on this!

Thanks for stopping by this week! I hope you enjoy the rest of the weekend!


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Why Love And Sex Shouldn't Be Separated

This is the second post in the series on boundaries, casual sex and friends with benefits.

"When that one night stand gets dressed again, the affair returns to his wife and the friend with benefits has benefited from you, you'll be alone again. "

Nowadays, casual sex, one night stands, affairs and friends with benefits are seen as pretty normal. However, it is often overlooked that the separation of love and sex bears many dangers. The most common dangers are that it provides a false image of maturity, leads to STIs and unwanted pregnancies and ultimately to broken hearts. 

Casual Sex = Maturity?

First, the ability to separate love and sex is unfortunately seen as a sign of maturity.


Hot Tomato Soup

I love tomato soups and tomato sauces! 

So today I want to share with you a recipe for a hot and creamy tomato soup. It's even vegan, dairyfree, glutenfree and whatnot :)


On Boundaries And Why They Matter

I’ve always thought that love and sex belonged together. But when I reached puberty and hormones and feelings started to go wild, I started to question this truth. That's how I ended up in a "friends with benefits" relationship... (more on that here in another post)

I think every girl can relate to the situation when you have crush after crush, you’re falling in love so often, but nobody ever seems to return your love. All your friends experience their first kisses, first loves, first times. And slowly a thought creeps into your mind…


On The Blog - Launch Week!

Here's a short overview of what's going on on the blog this week ^^

Here's a short info about me and the purpose of this blog. 

And here's a post on my plans for the summer :) 

Later this week, I will upload a post titled "On Boundaries and Why They Matter", which is the first part of a three-or-four-parts series dealing with friendship with benefits and also in general the separation of love and sex nowadays. 

On the weekend, I'll share a recipe for one of my favorite dishes with you. 

And who knows, maybe I'll even have my first reader by then ^^

A Busy Summer

It's finally summer! 

Now's the time for holidays, meeting friends, enjoying the sun... - wait, it's exam season. I'm in my fourth semester and this time next year I'll be writing my Bachelor thesis. So first of all, the beginning of summer means studying and rehearsing. 

Here's my exam schedule for this semester: 

- 14.07. oral exam in Medieval English Translation
- 15.07. computer-based exam on research techniques
- 25.07. French grammar exam
- 26.07. Essay Writing
- 26.07. French text comprehension & production 
- 01.08 oral presentation on a topic of choice
- until the end of August: two term papers in linguistics

However, since the new semester starts in October, I'll have plenty of time left when the term papers are written. I will stay with my boyfriend for the whole September and will use the time to train myself as a housewife ^^ (I'll definitely do one or more posts on that). 

In the first two weeks of August, I'll also do an internship at a library :) And I will spend a week with my father and his wife on Usedom (a small island in the north-east of Germany). 

What are your plans for the summer? Do you go somewhere or do you stay at home? Do you have a summer job? 

Hey there!

So glad to see you here on Chasing After Butterflies! 

This blog is going to be about relationships, university, internships, cooking, books, movies, music, housewife training - basically everything of interest in the life of a 20-year old girl. 

I think that everyone makes some - or many - mistakes growing up. I've had my own share of mistakes (and you can bet that I'm still making some right now), but I wanted to share them with you and what I've learned. You're not alone with your experiences! 

A few words about me:

-  I'm Ylva, 20 years old and I live in Düsseldorf, Germany. 
-  Right now, I live in a small single-appartment in an all-girls dorm. 
-  I'm currently doing English and Frech Studies in the fourth semester. 
-  Since August '14, I'm in my first serious relationship with one of the loveliest guys on earth.
-  I'm a book addict! I also love music, movies and cooking.

I hope you'll enjoy this blog! If you want to, you can follow me on Google + or you can find me on goodreads and Pinterest :)

You can also leave me a comment :) As these are the very first posts on this blog, I'd love to hear from you! Which stage of life are you in right now? Which topics do you find the most interesting?